( I think they had it in mind since the beginning of our request for a second child ! ) As others have said its a frustrating time, but the positivity of your social worker regarding you is a considerable help in getting links so giving her a bit of a chance to find a local link first is also good policy as well as being fair. First time round, our LA asked for three months, then put us on a local consortium list ( of other LA's in the country) and after a year they suggested we look further afield, which we did and were matched from elsewhere, but the local support from them was crucial following placement, they didn't have to do this but it helped us and the placing LA sw who had a long way to travel otherwise (they alternated the statutory visits pre adoption order) I still think it helped that we had been so patient with them, it meant we had their goodwill, and you never know when you might need that ! After our second child approval by the same LA they had a match straight away within the authority. Given that the cost of getting you to approval is born by the LA, it seems reasonable to let them have a wee while to see if they have any potential matches come up, especially in these cash strapped days. I found waiting/matching the worst bit of the process. A great link for you may not be in your county.but then again it might! Good luck. I was also impatient! Practically, what's the option around an in house link? Are you a bigger LA or are there very few children? I'd say try not to close off your options. I didn't want matching to be something done to us. In my case I think I wanted that control to find our link. Fast forward two years and our in house link is currently jumping up and down on our sofa as though he's always been part of our family! I was wrong. We went into the in house match with me still questioning if it was right. This included considering each link on a 'is there a reason to say no' basis and finding out more. I posted on here about the lack of feelings for this potential link and got some great advice. Then an in house link came along and I felt non of the attraction I had initially for the links I was drawn to by choice. The outcome - we pursued a couple of external links by being assertive but the level of support / complexity or competition meant we either said no or were rejected. The LA discouraged all our searching attempts and we really had to push to follow up links we felt an attraction to. We had frustration around what you describe. Is there anything I can do to try and get my social worker to be more positive towards my chosen links? I appreciate that it is more cost effective etc to match in house but I'll find it hard to say yes to an in house link if I prefer the sound of a Link that I've seen elsewhere. I'm finding it increasingly frustrating to not be able to follow up leads on children I have read profiles on and seen photos of just because the social worker wants us to be matched 'in house'. We also have not been sent any details about them. The children she's talking about are yet to go to panel hearing themselves. There is a particular child that we'd like to exchange details with on Linkmaker but our social worker has said that we have to consider any potential children in our LA first. We have been on Linkmaker for a couple of months (supported by our social worker) and have shown interest in a couple of children. It does not store any personal data.Any advice would be appreciated! We are at the end of Stage 2 and our social worker has just written our PAR with our Panel hearing in a few weeks time. The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics". These cookies ensure basic functionalities and security features of the website, anonymously. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly.
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